Grow Together

A birthday gift from Kary and Taniye

The Grow Together Journal is free this November.

We both have birthdays in November, so we're giving couples a free digital copy of our journal.

It's 91 pages of questions and exercises, from how you handle disagreements to the daily and weekly rituals you build.

Free digital journal

Free from November 1 through November 30, 2026. We only need your first name and email.

We'll use your name and email to send you the journal. Read our privacy policy.

The Grow Together Journal cover, deep oxblood with gold lettering, shown with two of its pages.

What's inside the journal

You don't have to wait for a problem to spend time on your relationship.

The journal is for couples who already value what they have and want to keep learning about each other. Some prompts are for you to answer on your own. Others are for the two of you to write and talk through together.

  1. Part I

    The Foundation

    Safe space, communication, shared history, values, boundaries, love languages, and a shared vision for the life you're building.

  2. Part II

    Constructive Conflict

    How you handle disagreements, including staying regulated, tracing triggers, giving feedback, and coming back together afterward.

  3. Part III

    The Building Blocks of Healthy Love

    Appreciation, rituals of connection, 12 weekly check-ins and 3 monthly ones, and a closing reflection.

91 pages in three parts. Work through it over a weekend or a few pages at a time. It's a personal-use journal, not therapy or a substitute for professional mental health care.

A look inside

Pages from the journal. Select a page to see it larger.

  • Journal page: Safe Space, Why Reactivity Is Normal, with connection prompts and individual reflections.

    Safe Space

  • Journal page: Communication, Speaking Openly and Honestly, with reflection prompts and writing lines.

    Communication

  • Journal page: Shared History, Grounding in Gratitude, with writing lines.

    Shared History

  • Journal page: Shared History gratitude exercise with a letter of appreciation.

    Shared History & Appreciation

  • Journal page: Rituals of Connection, Consistency Over Intensity.

    Rituals of Connection

  • Journal page: Rituals of Connection, with spaces for daily, weekly, monthly, seasonal, and micro rituals.

    Daily to seasonal rituals

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Kary and Taniye Youman together outdoors on their wedding day.

Our story

Why we made this journal.

We're Kary and Taniye, a husband-and-wife team living on the west coast of Norway.

We created Grow Together because we believe relationships deserve our attention even when things are going well.

We wrote this journal together, and Taniye designed it. It's filled with questions and exercises we've put together to help couples better understand themselves, talk openly, and make time for each other.

With love,
Kary & Taniye

The journal

Digital or printed.

Take it at whatever pace suits the two of you. The journal suggests going through the three parts in order, either over a weekend or a few pages at a time over weeks or months.

The digital edition is free from November 1 through November 30, 2026. If you'd rather have a printed copy to write in, you can buy one.

Get your free journal.

If your relationship is going well, this is a good reason to sit down together and ask each other things you haven't asked yet.

It's free until November 30, and all we need is your first name and email.

We'll use your name and email to send you the journal. Read our privacy policy.